Dive In

Dive In

Why does being a human feel like such a struggle sometimes? 

If we take a clear and honest look
at the culture we live in, how could it not? From the time we’re born, our culture places a continual flow of expectations and restrictions on what we’re supposed to feel, express, desire, and do.

Shame Resilience

Shame Resilience

"Shame must be healed within relationship", my teacher recently said.

The instinct to hide parts of us, that for one reason or another, we have deemed unlikeable, inadequate, or unacceptable, is wired into our systems to protect us from rejection because, in biological terms, rejection could threaten survival.

Reflections From the Road

Reflections From the Road

I left town last July with my partner, Jonathan, and toddler, Luca, on a mission to share more of ourselves in the world for one year. It was time for me to grow beyond the safety of my home and for me to use my voice, to lead by example and practice facilitating groups through heart-rich sharing of our experiences, struggles, grief, joys and aspirations. 

Loving What Is

Loving What Is

This is a story about my love affair with the most perfect form of baked good: the cookie.

That’s right. I’m talking about the world's foremost manifestation of flour, butter, and sugar combined. You don’t have to agree with me to get this story. I give you permission to replace ‘cookie’ with whatever delectable treat it is that most captures your attention.

Anchor LOVE

Anchor LOVE

I had a boyfriend a few years ago. We started off the relationship with me pursuing him while he kept a distance, and ended the relationship two years later, with him pursuing me while I kept a distance. Unfortunately, this dynamic was way too familiar to me. I was willing to accommodate and contort myself to what...

Embracing Impermanence

Embracing Impermanence

Whew! Just wanted to take a moment and share about the beautiful and complimentary experience I recently had sitting my first 10-day Vipassana meditation course. There are so many congruencies between the teachings of Vipassana and the teachings of Solsara, including residing in the present moment, the study of the intersection between mind and body...

Fear, Acceptance, and Skillin' it

Fear, Acceptance, and Skillin' it

Paralyzed. Contracted. No words. Heart racing. “Stop looking at me.” “I have nothing to say.” Yet I continue talking. A compulsion inside of me continues to self-generate. “You want this. You have something to share. Just…keep…talking. It will get easier.” *     *     * I was deep in it a couple of weekends ago at the...

Courageous Love

Courageous Love

My own personal focus lately has been on paying attention to the subtle ways that fear operates in me—how fear is at the root of almost all my unease and inhibition. My practice, then, has been to notice when I’m in a state of fear, and to recognize that I have two choices: to suppress it, ...